1 - Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing. A man’s name is very important to him.
2 - Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you---be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual.
3 - Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-goingness so that things do not ruffle you.
4 - Don’t be egotistical. Guard against giving the impression that you know it all. Be natural and naturally humble.
5 - Cultivate the quality of being interesting so that people will want to be with you and get something of stimulating value from their association with you.
6 - Study to get the ‘scratchy’ elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
7 - Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis (note: as a Muslim, we should instead practice ‘on an honest Islamic basis’), every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
8 - Practise liking people until you learn to do so genuinely. Remember what Will Rogers said, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Try to be that way.
9 - Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
10 - Go get a deep spiritual experience so that you have something to give people that will help them to be stronger and meet life more effectively. Give strength to people and they will give affection to you.
Taken from Norman Vincent Peale's The Power of Positive Thinking, pages 267-268.
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